My name is Mel and I am a very privileged Mummy to 5 beautiful girls born 1999, 2002, 2004, 2008 and 2015 all born in a variety of ways just as unique and individual as they are. My husband and not so little family all live in Epsom Surrey.
After dipping in and out of many different jobs following leaving school and not really knowing exactly what I wanted to do, at 22 I became pregnant with our first Daughter and her birth completely changed my life, it was a very difficult pregnancy and birth and I experienced some very poor care from the hospital and a total lack of support from the professionals I trusted to help me. This experience left me questioning why people went into caring roles if they gave the impression that they didn’t…I was convinced that it didn’t have to be that way and set out to be the one person who made a difference.
After my second Daughters birth I decided nursing was where I felt my heart belonged and for a few years worked on the Gynaecology ward at my local hospital and then transferred over to the community nursing team before pregnancy with my fourth daughter left me unable to commit wholeheartedly to my role. I didn’t return following my maternity leave and spent the next 4 years being there for my beautiful girls full time. When my youngest started school I found a job as the Matron of a boarding house, which suited my life perfectly and I continued with that until daughter number 5 surprised us in 2015.
I had always hoped to study Midwifery but heard of Doulas many years ago and the idea of the freedom to really care without the 3 P’s (policy, procedure and paperwork) sat better in my heart, I honestly wanted the ability to care and support women without any other agenda influencing that. However all the passion in the world and I still didn’t grab it until 2016 when I found The Positive Birth Movement and became a facilitator in my local area, it astounded me that women were so fundamentally fearful of birth because of the wrongdoings of society, the media and the culture of turning birth into a battlefield where only stories of battle wounds were shared.
I’d had my share of traumatic birth, fighting for my rights, producing counter argument after counter argument why I should be allowed to birth my baby my way, based on choices made by my husband and I, I had even had to do this whist in labour…this instinct I had never failed me and I have experienced the most beautiful, empowering and healing of births, a right that every woman has! I proudly say “I love giving birth” and even though I’m met with looks of horror, surprise and bewilderment I’ll never stop saying it because birth IS amazing, WOMEN are amazing and deserve to be treated as such!
So this is my driving force, my passion for birth, for women to be able to control their birth choices for birth to be YOURS!
From the legendary Ina May Gaskin: “Whenever and however you intend to give birth, your experience will impact your mind, your body and your spirit for the rest of your life”